What could be more fascinating than the idea of an eternal soul bond? A bond that is so intrinsic to one’s energetic being that it is as though you share a soul? Long before I knew the theories, I knew somewhere inside that I was searching for a bond like this. As I came to define my feelings, thoughts, ideas, and experiences, I discovered that others were having this experience as well. These types of connection are commonly defined as Twin Soul connections.
While no one has any authority on the true definitions of soul connections, it can be helpful to think about the terms used to describe the different types of connections we can have with other souls. As such, I’ll go through the common ones and define what I understand these terms to mean. Now when I talk about twin souls and soul connections, you’ll know what I mean by those words.
Soul Connection: Any person to whom you have some kind of soul bond. This term refers to any connection with another felt on a soul level (and is used interchangeably with some of the more definitive terms): past life connections, karmic connections, souls who have similar vibrations, kindred souls, souls with a shared or common soul goal, souls with a shared soul contract, soulmates, twin souls, etc. This applies to anyone you feel strongly enough about to be aware of on a spiritual level. It can refer to any type of relationship that holds deeper meaning for you. The term “soul connection” is generally used when the exact nature of the connection is unknown but is meaningful, powerful, or passionate all the same. Simply put, anyone who affects your life in a meaningful way is a soul connection. This term is general and encompassing enough to be inclusive of all possible types of connections while not limiting the scope of its value or meaning. For that reason, I will use this term when referring to meaningful connections in general.
Soulmate (Soul Mate): A member of your soul family. Someone with whom you share a closer vibrational frequency. I’ve always liked Brian Weiss’s analogy that our souls are like leaves on a tree. Our soulmates, using this analogy, would be the leaves on the same branch as us. I am not sure how many soulmates a soul has altogether, but one is likely to be incarnate with several members of their soul family in any given incarnation. Soulmates can be guides or in various states of incarnation as well. It can manifest as any type of relationship.
Twin Soul (Twin Flame, Twin Ray, the other half of one’s soul, etc.): This is what I believe to be the other polar aspect of your soul. I think this is best illustrated by the concept of the yin yang: the entire circle is the soul and the two opposing yet intertwined aspects are the manifestations of one and one’s twin. It is about knowing Oneself through the eyes of Oneself. Some people further distinguish between the terms twin soul, twin flame, and twin ray. I believe these terms all describe the same concept and thus don’t distinguish between them, but I prefer the term twin soul, so that is the one I’ll use.
Notice that in none of these definitions did I state the quality of the relationship. What I’m referring to here are spiritual relationships and not physical ones. In the physical, your relationship with a soul connection can be positive, negative, and anywhere in between. They also refer to all types of relationships, not just romantic ones (though you tend to hear these terms used in connection to romantic relationships). NONE of these terms are synonymous with the fairy tale romance of pop culture, despite the application of these terms to those concepts. In fact, many people who have this experience come to find how much deeper it goes than our cultural ideals of romantic connection!
Again, this topic is an endless source of fascination and interest to me. I find myself drawn to conversations and communities dedicated to the topic. However, as helpful and enlightening as these communities can be, I feel troubled at times by some of the cyclical patterns of suffering and dogmatic thinking masquerading as Fact that crops up all over. I’m just as compelled to address those concerns and ideas as I am to share my own thoughts and experiences. My hope is to offer a different perspective to those who feel confused or would like more information.
I’m not an expert. No one should claim to be an expert on this topic. I’m just a person whose life has been deeply affected by this experience, whatever it is. I want to talk honestly about what I think is a very serious topic and give it the respect and reflection it deserves. People tend to lose perspective when it comes to this type of spiritual occurrence, and this is a time when we need it most. I want to explore this topic not as a guru or spiritual master, but as a person who has had a life-changing spiritual experience.